1. ignore the definition of “bisexual” used by the actual bisexual community (attracted to same and other genders) and use “attracted to two genders” instead
2. claim that because of your incorrect definition bisexuals are cissexist and transphobic (because apparently you…
OK, wow, so im apparently a biphobe now because i wanted a clarification on the fucking definition. Ok, thanks asshole.
But it doesn’t say that? That’s nonsense, asking for a clarification on definitions is always fine. How else would you learn? I can’t imagine what sort of mental gymnastics it’d take for someone to claim biphobia when you ask them to clarify why it differs from pansexuality or on the definition itself.
It sure as hell implies it.
nah it’s about willfully choosing to not listen to the general bisexual community when they define their sexuality/give you the definition they’ve used for so long and trying to force your own definition on them
it’s definitely not about people who didn’t know that definition before or people who want clarification on the term “bisexual” or anything like that
I still think you’re arguing semantics. Who gives a damn what your sexuality is called? I also think you’re still wrong about the biphobic thing. I am not scared of or hate bi people just because I think of bisexuality as a dictionary definition i learned that describes people who like men and women. Even if i did refuse to accept their definition of it, how does that in any way make me biphobic? Your post still makes no sense no matter which way you slice it.
Err one of the main points of this post is the definition of bisexuality so yeah semantics is sort of the point? Saying someone is “arguing semantics” in an discussion about definitions is kind of pointing out the obvious.
It’s the definition of a sexuality we’re talking about so the meaning is actually pretty important. People of all kinds are arguing about this, not just bisexuals, so apparently a lot of people “give a damn” about what people’s sexualities are called.
The dictionary also says bisexual means “having characteristics of both sexes” and yet you probably wouldn’t try to use that definition, right?
The fact that you’ve read one definition from one source doesn’t mean you’re using the best meaning and people of the bisexual community have defined themselves as things like “attracted to same and other genders” (the main one I’ve seen) and “attracted to two sexes [not two genders]” and “attracted to more than one gender” for a long time so I don’t understand why anyone would try to redefine bisexuality once they know that.
When people decide and insist that bisexual means “only attracted to men and women” and “only attracted to two genders” and “attracted to only cisgender men and cisgender women” they’re erasing the sexualities of bisexuals attracted to anyone other than who these random people decided they can be attracted to
and it implies and sometimes outright states that no bisexuals would ever date transgender people and people go off from that assumption and call all bisexuals bigoted and transphobic.
What I’m describing is people being prejudiced against and contributing to prejudice against bisexuals which is/contributes to biphobia and is a problem.